If your heart’s in the right place and you do what you can to make your relationships work, why do you keep getting hurt? When you want so much to succeed, why are you often disappointed and why do your efforts often go nowhere? These and other such questions, and the issues that lie behind them, are central to some of the most crippling problems, whether personal or professional, faced by many people today – all the more because at the core they are self-inflicted.
Instead of working to further their own causes and achieve their dreams, many people sabotage their own lives and undercut their success. Moreover, they do these things to themselves unconsciously, failing to recognize that they are engaging in behaviors which undermine and defeat them. Furthermore, instead of making a good conscious effort to improve, they mistakenly think that other people, their past, or their circumstances are responsible for these troubles, and blame them for this. This of course means that they end up stuck in the same situation time and again.
Does any of this sound familiar to you? Take a good look at yourself; if you’re faced with daunting situations of this sort that you just can’t seem to get out of, no matter how hard you try or what you do, you could be undermining yourself, too.
Alan Nelson’s book “My Own Worst Enemy” seeks to help such people find ways to realize what they are doing and stop ruining things for themselves. It explores the ‘whys’ behind nineteen of the most common “behavitudes” – behaviors that stem from wrong attitudes – and helps its readers evaluate their own lives to identify and change any self-defeating behaviors. With this book’s helpful insights, anyone can achieve his or her goals and live the successful life he or she longs for.