Wednesday, July 30, 2008

How to Handle Difficult People

In a perfect world, you only have to deal with people you like. Unfortunately, we don’t live in an ideal environment and like it or not, you will be forced to communicate with difficult people or those who cause you undue conflict or stress.

Don’t be so fast in judging them because more often than not, they don’t even know they are not relating with you well. So how do you deal with them?

John Townsend, author of the book, “Handling Difficult People”, shares his insights on how to deal with problematic people and how to respond to them. Unfortunately, most people deal with difficult people in the wrong manner.

They deny the person’s actions or back off all together. Worse, some people end up feeling responsible for the other person’s actions or threaten to do something about the behavior but neglect to follow-up.

To improve your relationship with a difficult person, you should reclaim your personal happiness.

You should own your life. Why be dependent on other people to be happy? You should also learn to depend on the right people to end your dependency on the person who pushes your buttons.

Finally, you should face your fears and stop waiting for the other person to change.

As corny as it may sound, always remember that every person in your life has a purpose.

Through other people, you will be able to achieve personal growth and redemption. Instead of allowing a difficult person to change your life for the worse, try to change his or her life for the better.

If you see that the person is sorry for the pain he has caused, give the credit that is due and get on with your life.

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